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Speak Out Stay Safe Service

This service is provided free of charge by the NSPCC.

The Speak out Stay safe assembly helps children understand about different types of abuse so that they can get help if or when they need it. This includes talking about neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse and bullying.
The assembly helps children to identify a trusted adult they can speak to if they are worried about themselves or a friend. They also learn about Childline, and how the service can support them.

During the workshops, children in Years 5-6 (Primary 6-7) explore the definitions of abuse in greater depth. They take part in engaging exercises, including looking at different scenarios and deciding whether they are OK or not OK.

There is an assembly presentation for children aged 5-11, followed by a 1 hour classroom workshop for children in years 5/6. Before the assembly, we can talk to you about any specific needs and requirements pupils may have. We've also adapted our programme for special schools.

To find out more and to book a visit to your school please contact:
Rachel Burrage, Area Co-ordinator for Hertfordshire:
Tel: 07795 970633


NSPCC course to help primary schools respond to harmful sexual behaviour

The NSPCC have launched a new online training course to help teachers and school staff identify and respond appropriately to instances of sexualised behaviour. It includes practical information and advice on how to recognise, respond to and report cases of unhealthy sexualised behaviour so schools can play their part in preventing children from coming to harm.

Find out more at:

For all any queries or further information, please contact


CEOP Play Like Share resource - Launch of new resource for eight-to-ten year olds

This three-episode animated series and accompanying resource pack aims to help eight-to-ten year olds learn how to stay safe from sexual abuse, exploitation and other risks they might encounter online such as sharing content.

Play Like Share helps children to identify the signs of pressurising and threatening behaviour in an age appropriate way. This is explored through highly relatable characters and non-frightening peer-on-peer scenarios, where children recognise tactics such as flattery or bribery or that feeling you might get when something’s not right. The resources aims to develop children’s confidence and skills to respond to these situations and get help when they need it.

Download Play Like Share films and resource pack at  

Inform Young People Service - Lucy Faithfull Foundation

The Lucy Faithfull Foundation works with children , young people (and their families) who have displayed problematic sexual behaviour on the internet or in the ‘real world’, to prevent an escalation or reoccurrence of the behaviour. They can offer one to five free sessions of work with the young person (aged 12+) and their family, tailored to their needs. Each session will be delivered by an experienced practitioner either by telephone (through our Helpline) or face-to-face.

It is for young people who could benefit from a short piece of work,  where there are lower level concerns about sexualised behaviour in the ‘real world’ or online (e.g. amber on the Brook Advisory Traffic Light Tool) .The young person does not need to be open to a safeguarding or specialist team to access this service.

Schools can contact the Lucy Faithfull Foundation for further information or to discuss a referral on  01372 847160.

Harmful Sexual Behaviour among Children and Young People NICE Guideline - September 2016

This guideline covers children and young people who display harmful sexual behaviour, including
those on remand or serving community or custodial sentences. It aims to ensure these problems
don't escalate and possibly lead to them being charged with a sexual offence. It also aims to ensure
no-one is unnecessarily referred to specialist services.


What's the problem? A guide for parents of children and young people who have got in trouble online

This guide, produced by the Lucy Faithfull Foundation, is designed to answer questions that parents may have about an online incident that their child has been involved in. This could be that they have been viewing adult pornography; have an unhealthy interest in accessing adult material; sent a naked picture of themselves to someone else or posted it online or it could be that their child has been arrested by the police for viewing sexual images of people under 18.

For each of the above scenarios, the guide offers advice ,guidance and resources to assist parents/carers in understanding the issues, keeping their child/ren safe; supporting and talking to their child/ren.


Sexting guidance for schools

In September 2015 the National Police Chief Council released a statement on the procedure they have to take when a ‘sexting’ incident is reported to the police. As a result the UK Safer Internet Centre coordinators, have updated advice for schools when responding and managing a sexting incidents to help schools assess and decide whether a sexting incident should be reported to the police.

If you would like further help or advice then our Professionals Online Safety Helpline is open from Monday to Friday 10am to 4pm on 0844 381 4772 or via email at

Sexing Advice

The UK Safer Internet Centre and SWGFL have produced a really useful factsheet for schools: ‘Responding to Sexting’. The guidance sets out areas for consideration when deciding whether to report the matter to the police or not. This is currently a difficult area for schools and any advice is helpful.



Young Persons Sexual Violence and Advisory Service
‘Sexting’ in schools: advice and support around self-generated images - What to do and how to handle it - CEOP/Securus

Below are a series of documents from CEOP to advise schools how to deal with incidents of self-generated images (also know as sexting).  Included is

  1. Practical advice about what to do if sexting happens in your school, the steps that schools need to take and examples of best practice through case studies.
  2. An overview of the problem and an insight into the research and categorisation of sexting incidents.
  3. Some activities that schools can do to highlight the issues and develop a ‘whole school’ approach.
  4. A flowchart outlining the response process for professionals.
  5. A risk assessment tool for young people engaged in potentially harmful sexting.
Guidance Booklet
Annex 1 - Response process professionals
Annex 2 - Risk assessment tool


Addressing Negative Sexual Experiences with Young People

These guidelines have been developed with the intention of helping to raise the profile of the issues of negative sexual experiences and ensure consistent and sustainable approaches across the county.

In line with national safeguarding responsibility for safeguarding children and young people, this document has equal regard and concern for safeguarding vulnerable adults who are not covered by child protection legislation

These guidelines can be downloaded from:


Assessing Sexual Behaviour

Brook is the country's largest young people's sexual health charity, providing sexual health services, support and advice to young people under the age of 25.

The charity has devised a sexual behaviours traffic light tool which helps professionals who work with children and young people to identify, assess and respond appropriately to sexual behaviours.

It uses a 'traffic light tool' to categorise sexual behaviours, to increase understanding of healthy sexual development and distinguish this from harmful behaviour.

By identifying sexual behaviours as GREEN, AMBER or RED, professionals across different agencies can work to the same criteria when making decisions and protect children and young people with a unified approach.

This resource has been designed to help professionals think through their decisions and does not replace organisational procedures or assessment frameworks.

The tool is available to use free of charge on the Brook website:


Sexual Violence and Sexual Harassment between children in schools and colleges (DfE, 2017)

The document covers:

  • what sexual violence and sexual harassment is
  • what schools’ and colleges’ legal responsibilities are
  • creating a whole school or college approach to safeguarding and child protection; and
  • how to respond to reports of sexual violence and sexual harassment
Child Sexual Exploitation Guidance Core Document
Sexual Violence
NSPCC PANTS campaign

The Talk PANTS campaign helps parents of 4-11 year-olds keep their children safe from abuse. Like the Green Cross Code, it takes a potentially tricky subject and gives parents the tools to talk about it in an engaging and age-appropriate way. Schools can help get those messages across to children by using the following resources:

  • a lesson plan
  • a presentation
  • activities for the lesson
  • a film introducing the core messages
  • a letter to send parents beforehand and some suggested text for a newsletter
  • guidance regarding curriculum links in England, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland
  • a list of books
  • support for parents
  • guides for children with autism or learning disabilities and a video for deaf children.

By using this resource, schools:

  • give children support to seek help and safety
  • challenge myths surrounding sexual abuse. The lesson has been written to meet the requirements for personal and social curricula in England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland and is PSHE accredited.